Year: 2015

How to Stop Getting Paralyzed and Start Making Better Decisions

How to Stop Getting Paralyzed and Start Making Better Decisions

lessons of life, Updates


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  • “I have three books I’d like to write, but I don’t know which one to start first.”
  • “I’d love to quit my job, but what would I do? I have so many passions.”
  • “I’ve always wanted to live on the beach, but I can’t decide exactly where.”

Let me tell it to you straight:  Thirty years from now, you will not remember what cereal you chose at the grocery store. You won’t recall whether you saw this movie or that one.

What will matter is that you acted, that you made a contribution, that you decided to do something.

The fact is most decisions aren’t life-changers. The universe doesn’t care what you had for breakfast, but chances are you will eat something. And certainly, you’d be better off eating eggs than Pop Tarts.

It’s not to say that there aren’t such things as good decisions. It’s just that most of the time, you just need to decide, to do something. To act. And this is the very thing that most of us are afraid of: making a choice. We waste time writing up plans and setting goals that never get done.

And we sadly squander our lives.

Better than planning

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not anti-planning. I just know that for me (and plenty of people I talk to), a lot of that stuff is just stalling, hiding. Another way to stay stuck.

So what’s the solution? What’s the answer to this paralysis we sometimes feel?

Just start. Life is a journey, not a business plan. Quit trying to control things. Let go and live the story. What I’m trying to say is this: Where you’re going doesn’t matter as much as you think it does. Just go.

More often than not, you just need to move in a direction, any direction. As you build momentum, you can learn to steer.

Pick something

Your job is to take chances, not have all the answers. If this resonates with you, if it challenges the very fibers of your being, try any of the following:

  • Go for a walk.
  • Take a run.
  • Sit outside without your smartphone or laptop.
  • Climb a tree.
  • Do something dangerous.
  • Fall down.
  • Scrape your knee.
  • Tell someone you love them.
  • Laugh even if you don’t feel like it.
  • Write the first paragraph of that book.
  • Deliver a speech to a stranger.
  • Fill out that application.
  • Ask that girl/guy out.

Sure, some of these may seem silly, but the more you do them, the more alive you’ll feel. And that’s the secret of a fulfilled life. It’s not about the destination, it’s about the direction.

If you don’t know what to do with your life — what book to write, what song to sing, what job to choose, which person you should ask out — try picking something. It’s not a fail-proof solution, but it ain’t a bad place to start.

Because the truth is once you start moving, you can always change direction.

Commandments of Good Web Design

Commandments of Good Web Design

Updates, Web Design

Websites have gained more importance than ever before. Not only are you viewing them on your laptop, mobile or tablet but the website having their own app means a new step towards brand recognition. No matter what your website is about or what kind of business you are in, your website’s look is of critical importance and plays an important role in attracting customers.

There are certain rules of the web design game that have been accepted by many established Designers and brands. If you still haven’t been following these rules, somebody needs to drag your ass out from under that bloody rock

 Without further ado, here are the 10 (or more) Commandments of Good Web Design

1. Thou shalt not abuse Flash.

Adobe’s (ADBE) popular Web animation technology powers everything from the much-vaunted Nike (NKE) Plus Web site for running diehards to many humdrum banner advertisements. But the technology can easily be abused—excessive, extemporaneous animations confuse usability and bog down users’ Web browsers.

2. Thou shalt not hide content.

Advertisements may be necessary for a site’s continued existence, but usability researchers say pop-ups and full-page ads that obscure content hurt functionality—and test a reader’s willingness to revisit. Elective banners—that expand or play audio when a user clicks on them—are much less intrusive.

3. Thou shalt not clutter.

The Web may be the greatest archive of all time, but sites that lack a coherent structure make it impossible to wade through information. (AMZN) and others put their sites’ information hierarchy at the top of their list of design priorities.

4. Thou shalt create immersive experiences.

Merely looking good doesn’t cut it anymore. Sites like Facebook and YouTube draw in users with compelling content and functionality. Creating Web sites that can capture and hold users’ attention is what matters most.

8. Thou shalt be social.

Designers and Developers must work together to make the website as engaging as possible. The more engaging, interesting and addictive the website is, the more people will talk about you and show it to their friends. If you are actively social and your website does something great, your website’s trend will spread like wildfire in a jungle.

9. Thou shalt embrace proven technologies.

Wikipedia, YouTube, Facebook, and their cohorts have become a part of daily life. Sites that can incorporate these elements into their design will connect with users in a meaningful way by providing functionality and an interface with which they’re already familiar.

10. Thou shalt make content king.

Though the slogan is old, it still stands. Aesthetic design can only go so far in making a site successful. Beautiful can’t make up for empty.

11. Thou Shalt Entertain

Have fun. We spend a lot of time thinking about accessibility, usability, performance, all that good stuff …but we sometimes forget about making it delightful and entertaining—the kind of thing that TV people have to think of all the time.

When creating a website for a client, it is easy to overlook humor. Playful designs can often become coding nightmares that creatives would rather avoid. The good news is that  web-based entertainment does not have to be complex (or even brilliant). For example, Canada’s New Democratic Party website turned a technical error into an opportunity to promote their message. When a broken link redirected web surfers to a 404 Error page, they were met with the following message: “Ottawa’s broken. And so is this link. We’re working to fix both.” The result is funny, pointed and makes visitors feel like they are interacting with a personality instead of a computer.

12.  Thou Shalt Test Everything (Even Assumptions)

Google the words “SEO tips” and the search engine returns with more than 43 million hits in .37 seconds. Since it is unlikely that all those pages are full of carefully curated information on how to get more people to your page, it’s understandable why there is so much misinformation about what works and what doesn’t. In addition to getting potentially erroneous information online, people also tend to assume that people exhibit the same habits as themselves on the interwebs. Thus,  we must test different web elements to make sure they are intuitive for the majority of the people who visit your site. 

13. Thou Shalt Iterate

Consider the following quote by Milton Glaser: “I move things around until they look right.” When designing for the web, this method still should ring true. Repeatedly moving things around until they look right is the best way to find what works for your audience. 

14. Thou Shall Prioritize

We’ve all been there: You call a meeting to discuss a project and end up discussing everything but the project. Getting sidetracked, brainstorming ideas that end up not being feasible due to budget or time constraints, etc. are all time wasters that no one has the patience for. The solution? Get better at prioritizing. One of the best sources for learning how to do this at the very first kickoff meeting is Kevin M. Hoffman’s Kick Ass Kickoff Meetings post on A List Apart. Read it. Learn it. Live it.

5. Engage Thy Community

Instagram did a poor job of relating their change of terms of service. This was actually pretty good for Flickr, who had just launched their great iPhone app.

Big companies buy small companies to get the cachet that the small companies have. “Isn’t that right?”, Jeffrey asks Rey. “Yes.” are beginning to get more playful and engage with the type community. It’ll never be as cool as something like Dribbble (because is a big company) but they can still push things forward.

The Happy Cog website has comments via Twitter (because, hey, who comments on blogs anymore?). A List Apart has embeddable comments: you can take a comment with you and embed it on your own website.

6. Love Thy User As Thyself

The first five commandments are really about this: knowing your user, and making sure they have a good experience, regardless of browser or device. Be responsive — not just in the technical definition of responsive web design, but in your mindset. Don’t make dumb assumptions just because someone is using a phone.

7. Remember The Content

Jeffrey brings up my blog post about Content First. And, of course, Mark has been writing about A Richer Canvas. Jeffrey took our words and wrote about them thusly: put the content first always. Instead of asking “Where should we put the sidebar?”, ask “Do we need a sidebar?”

Karen McGrane talks about content strategy for mobile and how it is literally becoming the law of the land: governments are mandating that content must be accessible on mobile. You don’t want to be the test case in a law suit.

10. To Thine Own Self Be True

Ah, the old site: have hay, need hay. The site has since changed, but it’s still about hay. It didn’t “pivot.”

Smart talented people get promoted to being directors, but they might not be as good or as happy at that.

11. Think For Yourself

A bonus eleventh commandment. Don’t be a lemming.


18 Harsh truths about Corporate Life

18 Harsh truths about Corporate Life


I have been working since 2012 and have learnt some very intresting truths about worklife. These truth are like the universal truth of the workplace and eternally valid. Ignoring them would lead to your downfall. Orginally posted on Mens XP, here are 18 harsh truths about work life that you always need to remember.

1. The more efficient you are at your work, the more you will be burdened with it.

Coz you are the expert, unless you make someone as good as ( or better ) as you

2. Nobody cares about your individual progress in the corporate world. All that matters is what you contribute to the company.

They are paying you for a reason. Give them a good one.

3. There will come a time when you will take up a job just for the money and nothing else.

You need money to fulfill your wishes.

4. Desk jobs kill creativity.

They do

5. Very often, you will be held accountable for tasks that weren’t even your responsibility in the first place.

Yeah that kind of shit happens and becomes a part of your life. Get used to it

6. You will be dealing with a dozen tasks other than what you were initially hired for. Your scope of work will only keep increasing.

Welcome to real world, baby. Its much worse than you had imagined.

7. You will be constantly made to believe you need the company more than it needs you, and that, is not always true.

Because you need that money. Dont think your company is going to miss you no matter how good you were. The company never stops  and niether should you

8. Meetings are a waste of time

If you really want to make a meeting, keep it to the point

9. If you’re sluggish, you’ll be ridiculed by your boss. If you’re proactive, you’ll be hated by your colleagues.

Sure about the first one, not so sure about the second one.

10. Your needs as an employee would go completely ignored, sometimes. You won’t get what you really deserve until you raise your voice and put your foot down.

11. You will be made to work with uninspired people and it will be the most difficult task ever. Your team-mates would neither be of any help, nor would they make it possible for you take everything in your own hands, and it will kill your passion.

12. People around will constantly pull you down with their cynicism solely because they hate your guts.

13. Nobody is going to appreciate you staying in extra hours every single day but the one time you leave a little early, hell will break lose.

15. Office politics is definitely not a myth.

16. There will be times when undeserving people will get credit for the work you do, simply because they are higher up on the corporate ladder.

17. Half of your time will be spent in sending out unnecessary mails that will never even be read to countless people who want to feel important, before you can actually start working.

18. You will end up doing everything yourself.


Story of the Shark

Story of the Shark



This is a story that my manager forwarded to me. Very inspiring

The Story:

If you catch a small shark and confine it, it will stay a size proportionate to the aquarium in which it lives.

Sharks can be six inches long yet fully mature. However, if you turn them loose in the ocean, they grow to their normal size.

The same is true of potential leaders. Some are put into an organization when they are still small, and the confining environment ensures that they stay small and underdeveloped.

Only leaders can control the environment of their organization.

Some leaders are confined to aquariums.

Leaders need to be turned loose in the ocean so they can grow to their normal size.

If you are in charge of leaders in your organization, let them grow and develop. If you are a leader, purpose to grow to your fullest potential in the ocean instead of in an aquarium.

According to Wikipedia, the online encyclopedia: “Leadership is ultimately about creating a way for people to contribute to making something extraordinary happen.”

Description of a Shark in an Aquarium

  1. Some sharks are comfortable in the aquarium. If permitted to leave, they wouldn’t. After all, they have a place to stay, food to eat, and not be responsible or accountable for very much. Some sharks convince other sharks why they all should stay in the aquarium.
  2. Some sharks are so brainwashed they feel they cannot function outside of the aquarium. They choose to stay in the aquarium because they fear going into the ocean.
  3. The shark who leaves is in the minority. Only one out of ten would find the courage to go into the ocean where it belongs.
  4. The shark remains in the aquarium because it is comfortable there. It can’t see beyond the walls of the aquarium. Oceans are so deep and so wide that most sharks prefer being in a smaller container where it is warm and fuzzy. The shark enjoys being contained in a limited space with limited opportunities because it has not experienced anything different. The aquarium life is all it knows.
  5. The shark who leaves the aquarium is talked about and ostracized and referred to as a traitor.
  6. The shark who wants to leave but doesn’t leave will always wonder what it would be like to be in the ocean. It will never be satisfied in the aquarium.
  7. Some sharks will talk about leaving and get real close to leaving, but they never leave. They rationalize why they should stay. When they get bitten by one of the other fish, they talk about leaving again, and the cycle continues.
  8. Some sharks will have their belongings packed, but when an extra worm is dangled in front of them, they change their mind about leaving.
  9. The worst case scenario of all is the shark who disputes the truth that it was meant to grow in the ocean. It denies that staying in an aquarium will keep it only 6 inches long. It tries to disprove the fact that sharks will grow only to a size proportionate to its environment. This shark becomes angry wiith the shark who leaves.
  10. The shark who leaves without looking back will be the one who grows to its fullest potential and fulfill its God-given purpose where it belongs . . . in the ocean.

If you are a shark in an aquarium, go to the ocean where you belong.

If you are a leader who keeps other leaders in an aquarium, set them free so they can grow and do what they were created to do.

Being an Introvert

Being an Introvert


Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to “recharge.”When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.

Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Introverts make up about 60% of the gifted population but only about 25-40% of the general population and even fewer extreme cases of introversion. This leads to a lot of misunderstandings, since society doesn’t have very much experience with these people.
Common misconceptions about Introverts and the real facts about them

(original topic by Carl Kingdom)

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

My friend Diana Haught explains more on the psych of the introvert

  • It is NOT “good for us” to go out and socialize. It drains us. We have to withdraw and recharge. We hate crowds especially crowds with loud music and drunks. Good for us is a quiet evening with a friend or two with maybe some wine or hot cocoa. Not being a People Person isn’t the same as not liking people – we just like our people in smallish doses.
  • We don’t sit around waiting for your phone call. We don’t like being interrupted by the phone. We like you a lot but not that way.
  • We generally don’t confront. We are not confrontational people.
  • Most of us, if abandoned on an island somewhere, wouldn’t notice the lack of people as long as the plumbing and electricity worked (can’t read in the dark) and we had books and a computer and a food supply. Well, we’d notice eventually, but it would take a while.
  • Extroverts are dogs. We are cats.
  • We write things down. We write in general. Words are the world and the universe. We live many lives and they are all in our heads.
  • Very few introverts will know what color is in Fashion this season, although we can usually tell you more than you want to know about the science of color. Style for us means comfortable – preferably with no itchy tags. Sometimes we like to dress up in costumes though.
  • An introvert can consider you their bestest friend for years and never see you at all. It’s ok, we write (email really) don’t we?
  • Introverts have a hard time knowing what to do with themselves when made the center of attention in a group.
  • We are not sitting around secretly wishing we had company. We have a cat familiar or two and it’s all good.
  • Our answer to “Don’t you get bored being home all day?” Is “NO.” Being bored while being alone is not something we relate to.
  • Introverts love you. You just might not know it.

Sure, anyone who knows me would say, “Duh! Why did it take you so long to realize you’re an Introvert?” It’s not that simple. The problem is that labeling someone as an Introvert is a very shallow assessment, full of common misconceptions. It’s more complex than that. So before you go ahead and judge anyone and label them with whatever comes to that small brain of yours, make sure you get to know that person a little bit and talk to them yourself before drawing final conclusions

What would you choose for your website ?

What would you choose for your website ?

Custom Design, Updates, Web Design

When it comes to website development , you have a range of options in front of you. Beautiful designs, amazing features, great content…. you can go on and on. You have decided that you want a website for your blog, business or just for something you love. I made this website (and I still work on it) to learn about web design, programming, show photoshop stuff etc. and I love every bit of it

Whether you are making it on your own, are a developer or have hired one, knowing the core your website from the start can save you much trouble . Assuming you are just somebody that doesnt know a thing about website languages, I present to you the most common website development languages of the web. Ill try to explain as to which website code should make your site and why but ultimately, its your decision. If you disagree with the list, you are free to make your won suggestions 

Ready? still here…?? Ah good, then we can continue.

The languages I am about to differentiate are – 

  • HTML
  • PHP
  • JAVA

Please note that although wordpress is not a programming language, I still included it as millions of people use it to create website. I wont be discussing CSS (Cascading Style Sheets ) since its a supportive language in  my believe. You can still have a website without CSS; a damn ugly one. I am not including any other CMSes other than wordpress, but you are free to suggest it in the comments or show me a website where it worked for you.

Now that we have made it clear…and you are still here…lets move on



I hope this helps you take a better decision for creating your new website or revamping your existing one